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Happy Wedding Wednesday! I’m not going to lie, I think about my wedding often. Other people also remind me of my wedding often, and you know what they say? It was so much FUN! That was my inspiration word- a simple three letter word explaining my entire wedding. We wanted it to be FUN. We wanted our ceremony to make us laugh, we wanted our introduction to get the party started, and we wanted to see empty chairs while the dancing was happening. All of this means having FUN.

In order for this fun to happen, there were a few things I needed to get over. I needed to move past it and just let things happen as they would. If you are in the process of planning a wedding, I highly suggest reading some of these pieces of advice. It took me a bit to get over myself for some of them (I’m just being honest) but in the end, it was a wonderful event.

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  • Only plan ONE thing, and that was my wedding. I needed a break when it came to the wedding events. My engagement party, bridal shower, and bachelorette party were all planned by my bridesmaids, friends and family and I was SO thankful for this. If I would have known any of the details, I would have stressed about other things, so I knew that it was best to be 110% removed from these events. It also made each and everyone such a huge surprise and I have to admit, they all killed it and pulled off amazing events. How did this make things fun? The element of surprise and being able to fully relax before each event.
  • My wedding wasn’t going to be the picture perfect weddings like you see in Style Me Pretty, I actually wanted it to be somewhat the opposite. As a planner and designer I LOVE those styles of weddings, but I wanted it to be much more of a celebration and inviting more guests was most important to me. We realized quickly that our guest list was going to be well over 200 people, and in order for them all to be invited, we needed to have a more simply design plan. Thankfully, this meant even more chances to bring in personalization for our decor items.

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  • Everyone is different. At first I wanted all of my bridesmaids in the same dress because I felt like there was no other way to do it, but then I started thinking about body types and how comfortable they would be. When we had our bridesmaid shopping day, I let them all chose their own style. They were all really thankful for this and I think it turned out beautifully. It took a bit for me to realize that photos can still look amazing with everyone in a different style dress, but there needed to be some sort of coordination. Each of them had a chiffon, short dress and my sister had the added lace details. Since each of them were comfortable in their dresses, everyone was ready to bust a move.
  • Something will go wrong. I mentioned in my bloopers post some of the things that went wrong during our wedding day, and beforehand this was a huge stress for me. Of course, everyone wants their wedding to be perfect, but the perfection doesn’t need to come from the details, the weather, or anything in between, but does need to come from you and your future husband being perfect for one another. It also helps to have the best people around to celebrate this, which was another reason our guest list was so important. Looking back, I shouldn’t have had tears in my eyes when our car broke down on the way to the rehearsal because I was with all of my closest girlfriends and being stranded at a gas station wasn’t all that bad.

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  • It’s going to be hard to leave at the end of the night. In my mind, we had this picture perfect send-off and then we left. When it came time for me and Dave to leave, I really didn’t want to. Granted, our ride was the shuttle and it was stuck, but we had countless people offer to drive us, I just didn’t want to. I wanted to stay in that moment forever. So remember to SOAK IT IN as much as you can during the reception. Take a minute to step back from it all and just take a look at everyone who loves you as they celebrate your marriage. Then at the end of the night- LEAVE. We should have done this.

Do you have any advice for future brides?


Nikki and I love reading all about your big day, someone else’s wedding adventures, or anything else wedding related. We just can’t wait to read all about it, so link-up with us for Wedding Wednesday!

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  • Heather Hammel

    I will most definitely agree on planning only one thing. Right now I’m planning my wedding and preparing for a baby! Super stressful and busy and then right after the wedding, I’m going to have to plan a Baptism and then right after that I’m going to have to start planning our little girl’s first birthday party. So I definitely don’t need another thing added to my list of planning. We didn’t do an engagement party and we aren’t doing a bridal shower since we pretty much already have almost everything people normally give at those and I rather people focus spending their money on Rory for the baby shower rather than stuff we don’t need at a bridal shower. It seems like my step sister is going to plan my bachelorette party, so that takes some pressure off of me and as much as I hate that my mom won’t let me plan my baby shower, it is probably for the best so that I can focus on getting as much wedding planning and baby stuff done before Rory is born.

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    • http://totravelandbeyond.com/ Macy Volpe

      First, I LOVE the name Rory. That is absolutely adorable. Planning so much at one time is stressful I am sure, but those events will all be so much fun. It will be nice to have to worry about at least two of the big events!

  • Ashley Stephenson

    We didn’t want to leave either! At the end of the night when majority of the guests were lining up I was with my husband and a couple of our good friends having one last fun dance! It was so much fun! I was the same way about the dresses! I did different style dresses too and I am so glad I did because they all loved their dresses!

    • http://totravelandbeyond.com/ Macy Volpe

      I wish we could go back and relive it all again, especially towards the end of the night. I think a vow renewal is a must 😉

  • http://dashofherbs.com Kristyn | Dash of Herbs

    Our wedding was a day that we planned for for a long time, but then it was over in a flash. And ours wasn’t anywhere close to a Style Me Pretty wedding (we couldn’t afford anything close to that), but it was perfect. It had everything we really wanted and we made it all work out. I used Pinterest A LOT, and now I wish I hadn’t. But it was popular back then for weddings, so I couldn’t resist some of the ideas and inspiration.

    • http://totravelandbeyond.com/ Macy Volpe

      I feel the same way! Pinterest was a huge help but always a cause of stress when it came to certain things. In the end I love it though

  • http://ohhey-ilikethat.com Lauren

    I’m going to have the hardest time leaving our wedding–I already know it!

  • http://www.wanderingweekenders.com/ Ashley @ Wandering Weekenders

    Our #1 goal for our wedding was that we needed to be happy because we were getting married and second was for everybody to have fun. That’s what makes it so memorable for everybody. I also love your advice to remember that something will go wrong because nothing is ever perfect!

    • http://totravelandbeyond.com/ Macy Volpe

      It sounds like we had very similar thoughts for our weddings. It meant so much that everyone had a fun time and weren’t sitting around for a long time.

  • http://www.dreambigandbuytheshoes.com/ Emelia @ Dream Big & Buy the S

    Awe this is so sweet. I cried when ours was over. Looked at Chuck and was like NO this can’t be it. We were like, how much do we have to pay for another hour? When we quickly realized we couldn’t afford that we took our after party back to the hotel bar where there was a band for more celebrating with our group. Taking time to really step aside and look at what a beautiful day it was was the number one piece of advice I now pass on to people. Yes, it will be quick but soak in every second. Do what YOU want to do. All great advice Macy, your wedding was so beautiful and I’m sure SO special from all the personalized touches.

    • http://totravelandbeyond.com/ Macy Volpe

      I SOBBED the next morning. I was so happy but always so sad that it was over. Having people from all around the world in one place, at one time, meant more to me than anything. I wish we had been able to have the after party like we had planned, but the shuttle got stuck and that left 75 people stranded HA. Oh man what an ending.

  • http://www.myborrowedheaven.com/ Meg Taylor

    These are all such fantastic things to remember when planning a wedding. We had a noon wedding, so it was over by 7pm – luckily, we planned an after party at the hotel, so we still got to hang out with everyone. That was the only non-wedding thing I planned, and like you, I was so thankful to my girls and mom for planning everything else!

    Meg, Borrowed Heaven

    • http://totravelandbeyond.com/ Macy Volpe

      I wish we could have had our after party as planned, but we all still had a great time. We had a 11:30 wedding over the weekend and I loved it! I wish I would have thought about doing that for our wedding. The time never crossed my mind.

  • http://www.thefreeandwildblog.com Annie

    Ugh, this advice is golden! Seriously, such wisdom in this post. I wish I could have read it before I got married because I needed to hear ALL of this. I love the care and effort you put into your wedding. <3

    • http://totravelandbeyond.com/ Macy Volpe

      Thank you!! Have I mentioned that I wish we would have been IRL friends before our weddings?! Gosh that would have been awesome!

  • http://www.thelowcountrymama.com Jacquelyn @ Lowcountry Mama

    This is great advice! If I had multiple bridesmaids I would’ve went with different dresses too, I loove how it looks especially in your pictures.

    • http://totravelandbeyond.com/ Macy Volpe

      Thank you!! It was nice for everyone to have something that they loved and fit their body type/personality

  • https://beneaththefireworksblog.wordpress.com/ Erika Powell

    I totally agree with all of these. I definitely had to remind myself of them too! In the end we are married and that is what matters most

    • http://totravelandbeyond.com/ Macy Volpe

      Exactly!! As long as you enjoy it and you are married, everything else will fall into place.

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