Marriage

How Does It Feel To Be A Wife?

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cardigan- Oakleigh Rose | wifey shirt- Etsy | bracelet & necklace- Stella & Dot

I get this question all of the time, and I really don’t know how to answer it. It’s kind of like how Alex talked about being asked if you are nervous to get married. I totally get why people ask, and it doesn’t bother me at all, it’s just a weird question in general. I mean yeah, things actually do feel kind of different, but then many things also feel the same. I do know one thing, I love being Dave’s wife.

I have only been a wife for a little over 4 months, so I can’t really give solid advice, but I am happy to share what I love and what has been difficult. Since I don’t typically go into the long details when I am asked and normally just respond with “it’s great!”, I’m excited to give some more details. One thing that didn’t really change was living together. It was nice to have lived together since we got engaged, so moving wasn’t something we had to do once we got married. Honestly, I may have lost my mind if we would have had to deal with moving in together at the same time as planning our wedding. But I can also see how that would really change things. For us, we knew once we were engaged, that would be change enough for Dave to move in.

Changing my name has been a big change, and it was a heck of a process. I have only correctly signed my name like 2 times, and I love it when people call me Mrs. Volpe. I seriously want to buy alllll of the things in my new last name. Another big change has been combining all of our bills and really getting into discussions about our finances. I felt bad because I have many other things going on, this blog and my Wedding Planning business being two of them, so including all of those expenses and income seemed daunting at first, but it has all worked out really well. While it is not for everyone to combine everything, I am really happy with our choice. I plan on getting more into this in the future, but we are doing well with it for now!

I would have to say that the most difficult thing about being a wife is not having a wedding of my own to plan anymore! We put so much love, sweat and tears into our big day, and as it sinks in that it is over, it’s bittersweet. But I am so thankful for all of our photos and memories. Having such a great day makes everything worth while and being blessed with marriage to my best friend is as incredible as it gets!

The best change is absolutely my love for Dave has somehow become even stronger. Being able to call him my husband is an amazing feeling, and I am so happy to know he will be my partner through everything. I have even loved spending evenings on our sofa with pizza and our tv shows. It seems like such a married thing to do, and I just can’t get enough.

So there you have it, folks. Being a wife is incredible and I can’t wait to see everything that continues to change.
Do you ever get odd questions like this?


 

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24 Comments

  • Heidi

    We got asked the same question a lot after we got married and it felt really weird for us just because nothing felt different, which we took as a good thing. We’d been together for nine years and lived together for almost seven when we got married, so we already felt like we were married– it actually felt like a formality in some ways. I never planned on changing my last name and haven’t and we’d been sharing our finances already, so that wasn’t different. Plus, we already had pets, bought a house, etc together– things that a lot of people wait to do until after they’re married…haha.

    • Macy Volpe

      Whatever works for each couple is the best way to go about it! I just find it such an odd question. Especially for you, how would you even answer that when you had everything already for so long? haha

  • Ashley @ Wandering Weekenders

    I feel like there are so many people that end up not combining their bank accounts, and I can’t understand why. I guess different things work for different people, and combining bank accounts was the best thing for us. And I totally love just the little things about being married, like just being together after work and talking about the day.

    • Macy Volpe

      YES!! I 110% agree with you. I want to go digger into the finances discussion eventually in another post. I just couldn’t imagine still going to dinner and being like “uh you going to pay tonight” or needing paper towels and deciding who gets them? I feel like it would add “competition” to who is spending more or something similar. The little things are the best! Its those moments that I reflect on actually being married.

  • Annie

    That skirt, girl, gets me every time. I NEED IT. Also, I agree! Love has grown stronger between us too now that I get to call him hubby. Idk what it is, but I love it! (:

    • Macy Volpe

      Thank you!! As I was writing this, I realized I have no idea where it is from…oops! Actually being able to tell someone something about my “husband” is the best feeling!

  • Laura Powell

    I’ve been asked this same question so many times. Now that I’ve been married for three years I don’t hear it quite as much, but I remember feeling like not much had really changed. Mike and I had already been living together for a little while so there wasn’t a lot that was really different. Wedding planning is something that I STILL miss, especially with all of these awesome boards on Pinterest. I wish I could go back and do it all over again!

  • Kat Boogaard

    I love this post! I’m in the same boat as you—I’ve only been married for almost four months. And, honestly, life doesn’t really feel that different. But, I agree that the whole name-change thing and combining finances have been the biggest adjustments!

    xoxo
    Kat 🙂

  • Annie Montgomery

    such a great post, Macy! i kept nodding my head because we went through so many similar things – living together (i couldn’t imagine the stress of doing both at the same time!) and not having all of the wedding planning projects that we really enjoyed creating together :/ and then just sitting on the couch and looking over at each other to say “husband”/”wife” and squeal a little. haha we’re 3.5 years in and every day is so much fun, getting to discover new nuances of marriage and figure out difficulties and excitement in life TOGETHER. i love it. i love it all! 😉

    • Macy Volpe

      Thank you so much! I am so excited for all of the adventures we still have ahead of us. This season of our life is only just beginning, and I am loving it! All of the little things in marriage just come together and give me butterflies! It is an amazing thing <3

  • Vivian Bishop

    I completely understand how you feel. I am so happy we did live together before too because that would have been very stressful. I also really enjoyed planning our wedding, it was so special and it was a huge project that I am proud to say that I planned every single detail. Marriage is so great though!

  • Ashley Servis

    I lived together with my hubby before we married too. I think it has lots of benefits. The name change be hard to adjust when you have signed your maiden for so long. I still make mistakes here and there and I have been married for a year and five months.

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