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Wedding Wednesday {Honoring Loved Ones}

This is going to be a bit deeper than most of my exciting Wedding Wednesday posts, I want to talk about something that has been on my to-do list, I just haven’t had the courage to finalize it. How do you go about honoring loved ones that won’t be able to be there for our wedding? It is something we absolutely want to do. Most of you know the story about my Uncle passing away from cancer in 2013, but we have also lost my grandfathers best friend in the last year, my great-grandmothers both in 2012, and Dave lost his grandfather that year as well. We want to do something special to honor them, but also for those around us that have felt the pain from their losses as well.

We have a few ideas, but nothing finalized yet. This just needs to be a perfect aspect of our wedding, and it’s so difficult figuring out what exactly to do. I know at any point of the wedding when they are mentioned, it will be heartbreaking, but it should also be a reminder that they are in a better place as our Guardian Angels.

I would love some advice as to what others are doing to honor their own Loved Ones, and also advice on a few ideas. We would like to have their photos on a “memory table” but some other ideas are including them on the programs and saving a seat for them during the ceremony. My most favorite idea so far is having a memorial dance and everyone can dance during this song. I think it would be amazing for the other members of our family to spend a few minutes remembering the fun times we have all shared, while making new memories. But is that enough? I am at a standstill when it comes to thinking about a great way to remember such amazing people.

On the memory table we want to have a quote, similar to the ones in these photos-





I would really love to hear your ideas for this aspect of your wedding.

Don’t forget to link up with me and Meg for Wedding Wednesday, we would love to have you! We can’t wait to read your bridal tales, wedding stories and of course look at the pictures from your big day!

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  • Reply Shelby S.

    My husband and I both lost grandparents that we were close to. We chose to display all of their military pictures at our guest book table, with a lot of fresh flowers. It was special to us that when someone signed our guest book they saw their picture, and they were still honored in some way. I hope you find the perfect way to honor your grandparents as well!

    March 18, 2015 at 8:57 am
    • Reply Macy Gutermuth

      I love that idea! Half of the loved ones we will be honoring were in the military and having those photos would be a really special idea. Their wedding photos may be something to do for the others. Thank you for sharing <3

      March 18, 2015 at 10:37 pm
  • Reply Rachel McQuiston

    This is a tough one so first of all…hug! I don’t think there is any right or wrong way to do this. I’ve seen some very well done memory tables and think that is a perfect way for everyone to take a moment and remember them. You could also work in a moment of silence during your ceremony or have a special reading in their honor. Or have their initials sewn into your dress!

    My brother passed away when I was just out of college and I struggled with this quite a bit leading up to the wedding. I wanted something personal for me without bringing the mood down for all of the guests. For that reason, I chose to tie a bouquet charm (they’re all over etsy) with his photo in it to my bouquet. This way, he was with me in all my photos and while I walked down the aisle. It was the next best thing to having him there in person.

    March 18, 2015 at 9:17 am
    • Reply Macy Gutermuth

      Thank you!! <3 It's a wonderful idea to have his photo on your bouquet, and so special to you! I'm sorry he wasn't able to be there for your special day, but I know he was in spirit and that is an amazing way to remember him.

      March 18, 2015 at 10:35 pm
  • Reply Andrea

    This can be tough. I struggled with the same thoughts. I was only looking to incorporate one special person (my grandmother) so it was a little bit easier. I ended up pinning her engagement ring to my bouquet and carrying a penny in my shoe (that was a family thing with her). It was perfect for me, but there weren’t many others that were aware. I really like the idea of the photo/quote board for your situation. I think that would be nice. The memorial dance is a great idea as well. Whatever you decide will be perfect for you!

    March 18, 2015 at 9:46 am
    • Reply Macy Gutermuth

      Having your grandmothers engagement ring with you is so special, and a great idea. My uncle had a gold fishing hook that he always wore on his hat, it would be a great idea to incorporate that into my bouquet. Thank you for the idea!

      March 18, 2015 at 10:34 pm
  • Reply Lauren

    I went to a wedding two summers ago where the bride had lost her father and the groom had lost his grandparents, so they reserved 3 seats in the front row for them. On each seat was a rose and a small sign that said, “In honor of So-and-So who is with us today in spirit” <3

    March 18, 2015 at 10:01 am
    • Reply Macy Gutermuth

      Aw I love that idea! It would be lovely to have something like that for each of them

      March 18, 2015 at 10:33 pm
  • Reply Meg Doherty

    This was a really difficult subject for us. I did not have any grandparents living at the time of the wedding, Mike only had one grandmother, and he had lost his mom almost exactly 13 months before the wedding. We honored all of them by praying for them during the wedding ceremony, and the flowers were given in honor of them (that was also written on the ceremony program). At the reception, the guest book table had the wedding photos of each of our parents and all of our grandparents. We also had a little table with photos of his mom and a bouquet that matched my mom’s. Mike chose to dance with his sister for the traditional “mother son dance” and it was so touching.

    March 18, 2015 at 11:20 am
    • Reply Macy Gutermuth

      Awww the bouquet for his mom is an incredibly sweet sentiment. I’m so sorry you both had to go through that. It’s touching that his sister danced with him to still continue the tradition, that is a really great way to honor her and also include his sister. Thank you for the ideas <3

      March 18, 2015 at 10:32 pm
  • Reply Mary Bolster

    Macy, I think this is something that’s really requires a lot of thought. The idea that I’ve liked the best is a candle at our ceremony lit in memory of those we’ve lost. There are several quotes I’m thinking of placing with the candle including the heaven quote you have above.

    My cousin (who is more like a brother since he was raised with us) will be deployed for our wedding so we are planning of putting a framed picture of him in a chair as well.

    This could be another good idea;

    March 18, 2015 at 11:32 am
    • Reply Macy Gutermuth

      Those are great ideas, thank you!! That is so sad your brother won’t be able to attend your wedding but still honoring his presence will be so sweet. I’m sure he loves the idea as well <3

      March 18, 2015 at 10:30 pm

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