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Why We Decided To Have A First Look

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I have been thinking about this post since before our wedding. Not because it’s going to be this huge insightful advice post, but because it really meant a lot to me. As I’ve mentioned before, I have always known that we were going to do a first look. It just made sense. But it was a conversation we still had, especially with my grandmother who said this was straying too far from tradition. These reasons may not be for everyone, and there’s nothing wrong with waiting until your walk down the aisle, but this is what meant the most to us. In the end, I am so happy we chose to have a first look.

It Calmed Our Nerves
I wasn’t as nervous as I thought I would be, but our reasoning was that we still wanted to see each other in order to calm down a little bit before the ceremony. I was pretty nervous to see Dave, so it still helped a lot, but I really thought I would be nervous about everything else. If this were the case, Dave could have been the only one to really calm me down. Thankfully once I could hug Dave, it really felt like our wedding day.
Quality Time Together
Besides just calming our nerves, being able to see Dave and spend a few minutes away from everything was important to the both of us. We knew that we wouldn’t have much time throughout the day to just be us and live in the moment, so a first look was the best way for us to do that. From the moment I walked down the pier until the moments we were walking back together, it really made me so happy to just be with Dave. This was our day, and I wouldn’t have started this part of the day in any other way.
More Photos Together 
Having photos done before the ceremony gave us much more time than a half-hour during a cocktail hour. We had photos together after our first look, then we had bridal party photos, and then Dave and I had more photos done after the ceremony. This was a nice way to break up the day and make sure we had time to focus on our wedding while hanging out with just each other while we had photos done.
More Time With Others
Since we were able to do a first look and then bridal party photos, we were able to spend a lot of time with our bridal party all together. This was really important to us because I am very close with some of the groomsmen and Dave is really close with some of the bridesmaids. I wanted to not only have a drink with the girls before the ceremony, but also with all of the guys as well. This ensured time for all of this and more. We also squeezed in a bite to eat for the guys because I accidentally had all of their food delivered to our suite instead of half to us and half to them.
Living In The Moment
Not that we wanted our photos together to “get out of the way”, or end quickly, it was so nice to fully enjoy our reception. We didn’t need to leave at any point to have more photos taken, and I was never worried that we had missed something between the two of us. We could both celebrate our marriage all night long without a worry, or a time crunch and that was incredibly important.
Did you have a first look? Why or why not? I would love to know!

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  • Emelia @ Dream Big & Buy the S

    I love your reasons for wanting to do it. I definitely had thought about it and tried to convince Chuck it’s what we needed to do. After talking it over, we both wanted to stick to tradition and that’s when our idea of the first touch was born. I’m so glad we stuck to it and followed our hearts, as you did with your first look. Beautiful pictures! I always love seeing that first reaction 🙂

    • Macy Volpe

      I LOVE that you two did a first touch, those photos are so sweet and it’s very special to the two of you. It worked out really well for us since the weather went downhill, so that made my grandmother a little happier with the first look 😉

  • Ashley Stephenson

    We had a first look to and I am so glad we did!! Our reasons were for a lot of the same reasons you had and we wanted to have a special moment where my moms ashes were. It was an emotional few minutes but I wouldn’t change it for the world!

  • Lora

    I am so glad you posted this because I am wanting to do this as well for most of the reasons you listed above! My family though are so traditional and believe it’s bad luck…I don’t think that the fate of my marriage is going to crumble based solely on the fact that we see one another before the wedding!

    • Macy Volpe

      That was my biggest thing, after the ceremony I knew that everything would happen so quickly and we probably wouldn’t have time to just chat with each other. I am so glad we could do this.

  • Lauren

    I was torn over whether or not to have a first look, so I left it up to Colin, and he wants one! I’m excited now because I thought of a really cute way for us to see each other for the first time, and I’m going to love those pics!

  • Bailey

    My husband and I did a first look for the same reasons you did. We had ours early in the morning, which was great because by the time the wedding was over it was HOT. Our first look was at a different location than the wedding so it gave us a nice change of venue.

  • Kristyn | Dash of Herbs

    We decided to do a first look for a bunch of these same reasons. We also picked a different location so that it was secluded from everyone else (it was just us, the photogs and videographers). We got an hour to ourselves to just be together – laugh, cry, and we have SO many pictures of it. I’m so grateful for that time we had together. It was perfect for us, but I know it’s not for everyone.

    • Macy Volpe

      I totally get that and there are so many people that want to stick with tradition. If we would have waited we wouldn’t have had any photos together because of the storm, so in the end this really worked out.

  • Jenn

    I wanted to do this, but Josh really wanted the first time he saw me to be when I walked down the aisle. It was the only thing he really wanted so I let him have that.

  • Erika Powell

    YES TO ALL OF THIS! We did a first look too, for all the reasons you listed. And it took some serious convincing for my MIL to get on board. or at least get quiet about not being on board. I am so glad we did it, it ended up being one of our favorite moments of the entire day.

    • Macy Volpe

      Everyone wants their opinion when it comes to weddings, there is a time when you just have to do what you wanted to do. Thankfully, our moms were excited about it and watched as we did ours.

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